I had an incident at work today that I did not handle very professionally. I need opinions on my method of handling it tomorrow.
As I have told you before, I am an Executive Assistant at a very large bank. The local executives were relieved of their duties back in June. Since then I have reported to this man I'll call A. A and I have adjoining offices. He has to walk through my office to get anywhere. Next to my office is a man I'll call B. For the past 60 days, the only communication that A and I have had is small talk, such as "Hi, how are you?". That's it. I am always bragging on how nice and considerate B is. I was told in June that I would be reporting to A for 90 days and then if no jobs became available I would be severed. About 3 weeks ago, a man I'll call C, approached me about being his secretary. It sounded like a good position and I accepted it. Yesterday, when I got to work, C told me that he and I would be moving to another floor and that I would report to a team leader. The team leader is nice, but has no clue as to what I am doing. She treats me like a member of the "steno pool." (In Mad Man speak, I thought I would be working for Don Draper, but found out I was working for Joan.) Today, when I got to work, A told me that someone would be coming in for an interview. I didn't think much about it until I overheard him telling someone that he and B were interviewing someone to be their Executive Assistant. I was livid! I looked up the job on the website and there it was. It was like the position didn't exist until I moved on somewhere else. I felt like I had been stabbed in the back. I printed off the job posting and attached my resume and took it and laid it in A's chair. Everyone that I talked to said that they knew about the posting, but couldn't tell me. I cried for a long time. I finally got over it. About 4:50, A comes up to me and says that he wanted someone with a marketing background and that is why he was interviewing the candidate. How did he know that I didn't have a marketing background (I don't). He's never seen my resume. He doesn't know anything about me except where I went on my vacation. He added that since I took the job with C, I was not available. I told him that I took the job so that I would not be severed at the end of the month. He apologized for upsetting me, but I just turned my head the other way. I couldn't even look at him. I started crying. I apologized for crying at work. I have never cried at work, except when there was sadness. On the way home from work, I decided that I am going to email him tomorrow and say:
"I'm sorry for the way I behaved yesterday. I have been an Executive Assistant for over 15 years and loved my job. In order to stay at the bank, I took a position in the other department. My ego is not handling going from being an Executive Assistant to the "steno pool". When I came into work yesterday and found out that an Executive Assistant position had become available, I was hurt. It appeared that the position materialized after I took a position in another department. I felt "stabbed in the back". For the past two months, I have tried to keep a positive attitude towards everything that has gone on recently, but yesterday was more than I could handle. I am always bragging about what nice guys you and B are, and I hope this does not tarnish our working relationship."
Does that sound okay? I'm not apologizing for how I feel, but for how I behaved. I also want him to know how I feel. He's not going to be there tomorrow, so I thought I would email him. If I find out that he talked to B, I'll copy B on the email. I dread telling C what happened. I'm afraid that I might cry.
I'm not in the mood to post about my vacation buys. I'll post about that tomorrow.
Thanks for any advice that you might give me.